200 Questions To Ask Yourself In Your Lifetime
Spend time in a state of reflection, which leads to elevation
Starting Questions
Am I fulfilled with the life I have lived thus far?
Who is the person I am becoming?
What legacy will I leave on this earth?
Am I living my best life now?
When is the last time I laughed?
What is the last act of kindness I did for someone else?
Career
Do I like my job?
Does my job add or detract happiness from my life?
What are my talents?
What are my skills?
What activities cause me to lose track of time (in a good way)?
What is my dream career?
Do I like my boss?
Do I feel valued at work?
Am I respected at work?
How do I feel after completing a workday?
How do I feel when I’m on my way to work and/or getting ready for work?
Choices
What choices have I made that are negatively impacting my life today?
Am I a quick decision-maker? If not, why?
What choices have I made that positively impacted my life the most? Why?
What choices do I regret? Why?
What choices do I need to make that I have been sitting on for years?
How can I make the most of my least productive choices?
Who do I allow to influence my decisions? Are they positive influences?
Do I tend to make responsible choices or irresponsible choices? Why?
Do I think before I make a decision? If not, why?
What is one productive and positive choice I can implement in my life today?
Dreams
What are my dreams? Why are these my dreams?
Am I working on my dreams?
Do I care if I accomplish my dreams during my lifetime?
Do I put consistent effort into my dreams?
Is there anything or anyone that I am allowing to stop me from making my dreams a reality?
Do I believe I can accomplish my dreams?
Do I value my dreams?
When I think about my dreams, how do I feel?
Do I believe in myself?
Do I believe that I am capable of accomplishing anything I set my mind to?
Emotional Well-Being
What is my current emotional state?
Am I happy?
Am I depressed?
Am I stressed out, worried, anxious, or feeling burdened with life? If so, why and what can I do to change this?
What is the most consistent emotion I feel regularly? What does this mean for me?
Are there things that happened to me that are affecting my present? If so, am I ready to deal with them so I can move forward?
Do I take care of myself? Do I value me?
Do I let others take advantage of my time, body, and resources?
Am I kind to myself and others?
What kind of energy do I put into the universe?
Family
Do I have healthy relationships with my family members?
Do I spend time with my family?
Do I value my family?
Do I demonstrate and convey to my family that I appreciate them?
Am I holding onto past wrongs a family member(s) did to me?
Am I bitter towards anyone in my family? If so, what is stopping me from forgiving them?
Do I offer to help my family when they need assistance?
Am I a reliable member of my family?
When is the last time I conveyed to my family that I love and care about them?
What does family mean to me?
Friendship
What characteristics would describe my closest friends?
Why did I choose my closest friends?
Are the people I consider friends adding value to my life?
Do my friends talk negatively about their close friends to me?
Am I a quality friend?
Do I give and add value to the lives of my friends, or do I only take?
Do my friends only take from me, or do they add value to my life?
What characteristics do I value most in a person I consider a friend?
Do I have a reliable network of friends I can count on in time of need?
Goals
What are my top 5 goals right now?
Are my goals written out somewhere I can review them quickly and often?
Am I proud of what I have accomplished in my life so far?
What is my number one goal? How often am I working on this goal?
What am I investing my time in each day?
Am I a goal-oriented person?
Do I set limits for myself?
Who is currently supporting me and my goals?
Are any of my goals contributing back to society?
What is my purpose?
Where am I going from here?
Habits
What productive habits do I have in my life?
What unproductive habits do I have in my life?
Do I have any harmful habits in my life? If so, why are these habits still in my life?
What is the most valuable habit in my life right now?
What is one positive habit I would like to implement in my life today?
What areas of my life need more discipline? When will I implement discipline into these areas?
Do I thrive in environments with structure or little structure?
Am I a doer or wisher?
My life would drastically improve if I implemented the habit of ___________. So, why haven’t I applied this habit yet?
What unproductive or negative habits have I adopted due to the influence of others?
Health
How would I rate my current physical health (1–10)?
Are there any parts of my body that consistently experience pain?
Am I satisfied with my health status?
What measures do I consistently implement to maintain my health?
What is my current diet? Is my diet helping me or hurting me (take into account short-term and long-term)?
What could I do better regarding my health?
Do I get regular check-ups (e.g., semiannual dental & annual physical exams) and blood work?
Do I floss daily? Do I brush my teeth at least twice daily? Do I invest in my oral hygiene?
How often do I intake water and fresh vegetables and fruits?
Do I supplement my diet with vitamins and minerals?
Love
Who are the people I love most?
What does the word “love” mean to me?
Do I feel like I am loved unconditionally?
Am I capable of loving others and myself?
How do I convey love to others? Does it make sense the way I love others?
Do loving others scare me or excite me?
What does real love look like to me?
How many of my relationships would I consider to have been healthy love?
Money
How would I describe my relationship with money?
Do I have debt? If so, why? Furthermore, if I have debt, what changes do I need to make to get out of it?
How much money do I want to make a year? Is that number anywhere close to what I make now?
Am I comfortable discussing topics relating to money?
What is the last piece of financial information I learned?
How often do I educate myself on money and finance?
What are my top 3–5 financial goals?
Do I regularly track my spending?
Am I consistently saving my money? If so, what percentage of my income do I save?
Am I on track for retirement?
Would I consider myself financially independent?
How do I utilize money now?
My Body
What do I think of my body?
What is my least favorite part of my body? Do I have one?
What is my favorite part of my body?
Am I satisfied with the way I look?
Am I satisfied with my weight?
Am I satisfied with the way I feel physically?
Are there any parts of my body that consistently experience pain?
Am I confident or insecure in the way I look and feel?
Do I wear clothing that accentuates my body or hides my body?
Do I consistently take care of my body?
Past
What skeletons in my past have I not dealt with?
What issues am I having today that stem from my past?
How am I different today than I was a decade ago? Have any positive changes been implemented into my life?
What or who do I miss that used to be a part of my life?
What choices do I need to make today to prevent a repeat of past situations that did not work in my favor?
Who do I need to forgive?
What is something I have always wanted to do but still have not done it?
What were my childhood dreams?
Relationships
Am I happy in my current relationship (with someone else or myself)?
What about my current relationship bothers me most?
What type of people do I tend to gravitate towards romantically?
Do I prefer to be single or in a relationship?
Do I enjoy the relationship I have with myself? Do I enjoy alone time?
What are the top 10 characteristics I look for in a romantic partner?
How do I let others treat me in relationships?
How do I treat others when I am in a relationship with them?
The most beautiful, fun, and happy relationship I have been in was with ___________, and this is why:
What does a healthy relationship look like?
Have I modeled what healthy relationships look like?
Do I often smile in the relationship I am currently in?
Does the relationship I am in bring out the best or the worst in me?
Do I currently feel uncomfortable around anyone in my life?
Residence
Do I like my home?
Do I live in a clean environment?
Would I rather live in a different city, state, or country?
Am I comfortable with the amount of space I live in?
Am I unsatisfied with my home? If so, what is the reason behind my staying here?
Do I take care of the home I live in?
When is the last time I felt or mentioned gratitude for the place I live?
What is my favorite room in my home? Why?
Is my home a safe space for me?
Do I feel comfortable, happy, and free within my own home?
Self
What is important to me?
What do I need?
When do I come alive?
What do I desire most?
What do I love?
Who do I love most?
What are my hobbies?
What things make me smile?
What people make me smile?
What sucks the life out of me?
What makes me angry?
What am I most passionate about?
What is my purpose?
How do I serve others?
What do I believe in?
Who am I?
When is the last time I celebrated myself?
How would I describe the relationship I have with myself?
Do I trust myself?
When is the last time I did something fun? How often do I engage in fun and meaningful activities?
How have I made myself better within the past year?
What are the top 5 goals I want to achieve in my lifetime?
What things or people bother me the most? Why?
Why does my life look the way it looks right now?
What is the first thing or person I think about when I wake up?
What is the last thing or person I think about before I go to sleep?
What places do I want to visit?
What do I look forward to?
Sex
How often do I have sex?
Do I like sex?
Am I comfortable discussing sex? If so, why? If not, why?
Do I communicate my wants and needs for sex clearly and directly?
When I have sex, do I practice safe sex?
What does sex mean to me?
Am I selective about my sexual partners?
Is sex fun for me or a bore?
Have I taken the time to learn my body, wants, and needs sexually?
Sleep
Is my sleep usually peaceful or disturbed?
How do I usually unwind? Is it working well?
How many hours of sleep do I usually get each day? Is it enough? If not, what can I do, starting today, to ensure I get enough sleep?
What is usually the last thing I do before bed? Is it something that promotes healthy sleep?
When I dream, does it tend to be light-hearted and positive or heavy and negative?
Destiny S. Harris is a writer, poet, entrepreneur, teacher, and techie who offers free books daily on amazon. Destiny obtained three degrees in political science, psychology, and women’s studies. Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, or @ destinyh.com