Anger is often viewed as a negative emotion. People often view anger as something that is bad and should be avoided at all costs. However…
Anger is often viewed as a negative emotion. People often view anger as something that is bad and should be avoided at all costs. However, the feeling of anger is not necessarily a bad feeling at all. Actually, it is healthy to feel different emotions–especially anger. Sometimes we need to feel anger and accept our anger in order to make positive changes in the lives of others and in ourselves. The only time anger turns into a negative feeling is when we produce unproductive actions because of our anger. When we produce actions, out of anger, that hurt ourselves and others we then give anger control over ourselves. It is referenced in the Bible that a person should not sin in their anger. This essentially means that when you’re angry, take a step back and think before you act out of the emotion; become aware of your feelings and do your best to stay in control of your emotions so that you will not make decisions that will produce regrettable ramifications.
A good way to become more skilled at controlling and mitigating your anger is to start first by working on how easily it is for you to become irritated. Irritation and the build-up of irritation often times leads to anger. If you can work on becoming more patient, loving, and easy-going you can avoid unnecessary situations in which you become angry.
Communication is also a very useful avenue that you can utilize to avoid irritation, arguments, and feelings of anger. Even though this might sound quite simple, many people do not communicate their feelings, thoughts, emotions, and beliefs when it is most important. Much stress and irritation can be relieved by not assuming more responsibility than you can handle, delegating responsibilities, and communicating your needs, wants, and desires. If you maintain a low tolerance level for stress you will often find yourself avoiding situations (e.g. taking on too much responsibility at work and home) and maintaining more peace within yourself.
Lastly, notice the things, situations, and people who you allow yourself to get angry at. When you truly take time to learn these details you will often learn about yourself, and you will most likely find a way to perpetuate your own self-development and self-awareness. Take time to understand yourself, your emotions, and typical reactions, and see how you can change them. Awareness is the first step to creating change within yourself. Start first by becoming aware of the moments you often become irritated and angry in; after a while, you may start to see change in how you respond to situations simply by you becoming more aware.
Let go and live.