How to deal with loss.
After you lose someone you love, it can be hard to continue focusing on the activities you are passionate about. It can be hard to take care of yourself. It can be hard to work. It can be hard to live. It can be hard to have fun. It can be hard to get out of bed. It can be hard to breathe. It can be hard to execute your routine. It can be hard not to feel an array of emotions. It can be hard not to take your disappointment and anger out on others. It can be hard to feel any sort of happiness or joy again. It can be hard to smile.
There is no proper way to grieve.
There is no “proper” way to grieve. There is no perfect grieving process. Everyone has to grieve in their own way and on their own time. Some people grieve more smoothly, and others the opposite.
Preparation doesn’t exist.
Nothing prepares you for loss. When you lose someone, it still doesn’t feel real. It’s hard for the mind and body to comprehend that the person you love is gone. Death doesn't always make sense; it’s not cut and dry. You keep looking for signs of relief or signs that the person is still around because you’re grieving to the point where you’re just seeking solace from the person who's gone.
Immunity from grief is unreasonable.
Death is always around us, but it usually doesn’t affect us directly because it happens to everyone else…until it happens to you.
Experiencing a loss has taught me no one is immune from tragedy. No one is immune from loss. No one is immune from heartache. No one is immune from death.
No matter if you’re young or old, does the life you’re living reflect your truth? Are you who you want to be? Are you where you want to be? Do you need to let go of something or someone that is disrupting your harmony?
We often hear the phrase, “life is short” because it is; you only realize it once you’re dying or someone else is.
As we age, some of us get lucky and don’t have to deal with as much loss, but the losses keep piling for others. One thing I know for sure, though, as you age, loss — which is inevitable and comes in many forms — will make a visit to you at some point.
Shine your light and inspire others to shine their lights before the clock runs out.
Destiny S. Harris is a writer, poet, entrepreneur, teacher, and techie who offers free books daily on amazon. Destiny obtained three degrees in political science, psychology, and women’s studies. Follow her on instagram, facebook, destinyh.com, or join the tribe.