Focus On Yourself. Follow Your Path.
Our minds are naturally undisciplined
The eyes and mind wander easily into the lives of others.
Our minds are naturally undisciplined, and when we are not careful, it is easy to meticulously pick apart what’s wrong and what’s right in the way others conduct their lives.
Others’ habits, lifestyles, achievements, mindsets, how they speak, and how they live their lives—well, it all falls outside of our realm of control and ultimately guarantees that you will waste your energy, time, and peace.
Imagine what could happen to your productivity in your own life if you redirected this energy you invest into judging, critiquing, and observing the lives of others into your own life.
What if you stepped outside someone else’s drama and focused entirely on living and writing your story?
What someone else is or isn’t doing does not have to determine your level of happiness or peace. In fact, what others do in their lives doesn’t have to affect you at all.
If someone desires to live a certain way that comes across as unproductive, destructive, harmful, or misaligns with your values, it is not your job to correct them. Your responsibility to dive into the details of others' lives and “fix” things doesn’t exist.
In Discipline is Destiny, Ryan Holiday discusses how self-discipline is for oneself. It is not to place or force it on others; it is for oneself. The same idea can apply to everything else you try to place or force on others.
What are your goals?
What are your values?
Where is your mindset today?
If anyone has goals, values, or a mindset that deviates from yours, let them be. Do not feel pressured to bring them to where you are. Instead, model your values, goals, and mindset, which is a direct way of communicating another path if others decide to integrate your way of being into their lives.
Cheers.