Settling Is the New Normal

So many of us have fallen into the trap of believing that we do not deserve to have or experience good in our lives…

So many of us have fallen into the trap of believing that we do not deserve to have or experience good in our lives…

So many of us believe that we deserve to only be paid the bare minimum — even though we work our asses off.

So many of us are in relationships with decent people that don’t even make us happy, but we stay because we feel that this is the best we can get. Furthermore, many of us are scared to make new friends, have trust issues, and don’t believe anyone could accept who we really are because we don’t even accept ourselves.

So many of us only ask for salaries that are well below what we truly desire or are worth. We feel we don’t deserve more and that asking for salaries that seem “high” or out of reach are not worthy of us. Instead of negotiating our benefits and things we would like to experience in our jobs, we don’t because we believe we won’t get it; we also believe it will irritate our bosses. Most importantly, we don’t believe that we deserve it.

So many of us only apply for jobs that we are overqualified for or are just good enough for; we are too scared to step out of our comfort zones and believe we could never land a job that seems beyond our qualifications.

So many of us stay in jobs for the long haul with horrible bosses and co-workers because we don’t believe there is something better out there for us.

Why do some people feel they are worthless if they do not have the best education or any at all?

Because they have let society determine their worth based on a piece of paper that really means nothing.

Why do some people stay in abusive (physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual) relationships they know they can leave? Because they feel that they don’t deserve better; they don’t believe someone else could love them any better, which is true because they don’t even love themselves enough to leave that situation.

Why do many people settle for sub-par in all areas of their lives?

I have learned is to never undermine and sell myself short. It can be very uncomfortable to ask for what you want and are worth — especially when you are not used to doing this — but once you get into the practice of it, it becomes a lot easier and eventually becomes second nature.

Watch how your life changes when you choose not to settle any longer in ALL areas of your life.

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