Be Honest With Yourself. You WANT To Fail. You're Addicted To It.
Failure feels good, which is why most choose this option.
We Willingly Choose Failure
They say if you write down your goals, you’re 60% more likely to hit them than if you don’t.
It’s true.
Practically every goal I write down, I hit.
Looking back at my previous goals, they’re all checked off.
The other few I write down that I haven’t hit yet is always due to my own doing.
Many of us have those stubborn goals.
You know, the ones you keep repeatedly setting because you never complete them?
What does this mean if you keep setting the same goal year after year, month after month, or week after week?
When I do this, it’s an indication of a moderate addiction to failure.
We intentionally choose failure more often than we think.
Once we realize we do this, we can flip the script.
Mediocrity Is The Norm
Most people are mediocre, which means they have mediocre habits and mindsets.
Since we have limitless abilities, we are all destined to be successful.
However, the average person settles for a life of mediocrity which is the equivalent of failure:
It feels better to sleep in than wake up early.
It feels better not to work out and relax after a long day.
It feels better not to apply for a better job and stick with the devil, you know.
Going to bed without working on your goals and making progress feels better.
Watching tv instead of reading a book that elevates your mindset feels better.
It feels better to stay in a toxic relationship than to be alone or start over and find someone new.
Spending more than you earn feels better than facing reality and making budgetary changes/sacrifices.
It feels better to scroll through social media and spend time watching someone else work on their goals than to work on your own goals.
It feels better to accept the status quo; this is what most people do.
We’ve Become Extremely Comfortable With Failure
What happens if you don’t provide nutrients to a plant long enough? It will eventually die—even the strongest of the bunch.
If you’re not growing or making progress on yourself or your dreams, stagnation is in effect, which means something is dying.
It doesn’t feel good to choose the path of most resistance actively.
Most people aren’t going to escape their comfort zones.
Why? Because it feels so damn good to stay in it and live in it the rest of their lives.
Mediocrity and failure feel as good as a cozy bed on a dark, cold, rainy, and early winter early. Mediocrity encourages you to stay in bed. The pattern of failure encourages you to take in another moment of comfort instead of embracing resistance and choosing pain.
Unfortunately, our immediate “needs” to feel comfortable precede our larger goals 99% of the time; this mindset will prevent your success 100% of the time.
If you want to be successful do the opposite of everyone else.
How long will you continue to be addicted to failure?
Let’s review the two types of people:
Type 1: The doers.
Type 1: The people who constantly escape their comfort zones.
Type 2: The sayers.
Type 2: The people who stay in their comfort zones.
Who are you today? Which person will you be tomorrow?
We often fail due to a few things:
Failure and mediocrity feel better than success.
We didn’t truly desire what we thought we desired.
We’re not grateful. We lack gratitude and take the opportunity for granted.
#1 Success Takes Work
Success can take work to maintain. If you don’t continue to work at something, what happens?
You weaken and become dull.
If you achieve success and don’t stay at work on your craft, you can lose that success.
Success takes work to achieve, and it also takes work to maintain.
#2 Unwillingness To Make Sacrifices
Some of you think you want something but are unwilling to make sacrifices.
And if you attain it, you lose it relatively quickly because of the work and effort required to maintain it.
If you are unwilling to make sacrifices, you will miss the mark 100% of the time. Success and the achievement of your goals will take tremendous effort.
#3 Lack Of Gratitude
Lack of gratitude has killed countless opportunities.
The more you take for granted, the more you end up losing.
Never take people or opportunities for granted.
The rug can be swept from right under your nose as soon as you do.
Every opportunity, every person, and every situation can offer you something of value.
Learn to seek the value and the positive in everything—even when challenging.
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